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Review of the book: ‘State of Affairs’

An affair can be one of the most devastating events to occur in a monogamous relationship.  Perhaps  it’s that potential for devastation that causes people to view it in simplistic, black-and-white terms.  Many expressions abound about affairs that supposedly contain some element of truth in them. ‘Once a cheater, always a cheater’.  ‘Affairs only happen in […]

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Does having children make you happy: compulsory parenthood in Denmark

There is a baby boom happening in Denmark right now.   Every other Danish father pushes a stroller that is a cross between a full-sized crib and a Humvee.  Couples that have waited until their late 30s to try and conceive can rely on the government to assist them with their fertility treatment, if they need […]

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Review of the Headspace Meditation Application

Frequently, particularly when I am seeing someone with stress or anxiety, I recommend developing a meditation practice.  There are a plethora of free applications and videos on YouTube.  But when clients ask me if there is one I prefer, I recommend Headspace.  I have downloaded and tried several of them myself.  However, I had never […]

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When therapy makes you feel worse (an article featuring an old friend)

I thought I would pass this along.  I think it’s fairly representative of how things go in real therapy.  Furthermore, it features an old buddy/colleague who currently does training in Nevada. https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/xw4jyz/breakup-therapy-pain-before-healing

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Revisting Marriage and Loving Kindness

In September I took a trip to Houston (post-storm Harvey) and attended a workshop on Gottman-style relationship therapy.   This is something I have had a growing interest in;  the wealth of ultra-useful data grows by leaps and bounds.  This week, I am also teaching my undergraduates about marital therapy which has caused me to update […]

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from the Gottman’s

I have always been drawn to the Gottmans’ work.  When I was in graduate school, I noticed that a lot of practitioners hung a shingle out by their practice and advertised that they were a ‘couples therapist’ without having any real training in couples therapy.  At the time, there wasn’t as much research about couples […]

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Maintaining relationships with aging parents on another continent

It has become clear to me over the last few years that being an expat means having your heart in two different (at least) places.  For me, I have my family, including my oldest son, and parents and sisters, in the States and my spouse and newer friends here.   Skype works relatively well, but I […]

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Final review of ‘8 Keys to Forgiveness’ by Robert Enright

As I mentioned in a previous post, I think that the topic of forgiveness is so very important both in mental health, but also for a grander version of world peace.  Imagine if the Israelis and Palestinians could forgive each other (in fact, there are people working on that.  Click here for more information)!  In […]

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RIP Rebel Princess for reducing mental health stigma

Carrie Fisher in her iconic role as Princess Leia RIP Carrie Fisher, the openly Bipolar, addicted actress who brought us one of Hollywood’s first, strong female role models in her portrayal of Princess Leia in the Star Wars series.  She was only 60, when she died.  In her books, she chronicles her struggles with mental […]

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